tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post7425279935217762057..comments2024-03-07T00:20:16.083-07:00Comments on Denton Sanatorium: Questions Answered--The Venting Postjenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01313127576303289593noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-23457374037116937272011-05-19T20:31:16.974-07:002011-05-19T20:31:16.974-07:00Sounds like we have the same parenting philosophie...Sounds like we have the same parenting philosophies. I only raised four but they are all independent, married and serving the Lord. I love them and respect them so much and vice versa. Just read this while reading about your son going off to New York. When my daughter went to the mission field in Sudan, our house looked the same. I also felt empty for awhile. But then, as we chatted on the computer, I felt that I too was on the mission field and it gave me such a purpose. One of encouraging a missionary. No mail service! No phone! No Skype. But chatting became my lifeline to my daughter and to a little orphanage in AFrica. I am praying for your son and his mission.PERMANENT POSIEShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13357445734057023139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-40972128899756593242011-04-20T06:43:08.173-07:002011-04-20T06:43:08.173-07:00Over the weekend, I was reminded of the parenting-...Over the weekend, I was reminded of the parenting-is-not-convenient part of life. I am so tempted to increase the chore list, now. I have 1 who does his own laundry, but I am sure that more of them could:) You/we have good, good kids. We are so blessed. And they really are so much fun!Jen Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11292070073995166056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-37704490138277264942011-04-19T09:26:11.376-07:002011-04-19T09:26:11.376-07:00BEST. POST. I have ever read.
A to the Men.
xoxoBEST. POST. I have ever read.<br />A to the Men.<br />xoxoTracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08125618694139722572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-74088280457596325022011-04-18T21:09:21.249-07:002011-04-18T21:09:21.249-07:00Beautiful post.
You are amazing.Beautiful post.<br />You are amazing.Welcome to the Garden of Eganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10132446191608085958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-28905499009406952942011-04-18T18:22:20.104-07:002011-04-18T18:22:20.104-07:00WE are soul sisters I tell you. I could have writ...WE are soul sisters I tell you. I could have written this post word for word - this is exactly how Kurke and I started out and made it on our own and it is exactly what we have done with our children. It is a pretty good thing to help our young people become self sufficient and independent by actually making THEM do it!!<br />Good job to you!CBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16911579093553356167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-72547756017664677722011-04-18T15:34:08.351-07:002011-04-18T15:34:08.351-07:00Perfectly said! That's why I love reading you...Perfectly said! That's why I love reading your blog...you've done it, and are currently doing it with children becoming adults. I'm not there yet, but it will come soon. Thank you for your knowledge, and more importantly, for sharing it. My oldest is almost 13, my instincts are to continue doing for him because I love him so much, but I've found myself stopping and thinking about what i'm doing or saying. I often conference with my husband to talk about it. Thank God for good Men. We Moms need to stop and remember why the good ones are so great!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-39493945763753231312011-04-18T14:21:26.397-07:002011-04-18T14:21:26.397-07:00married at 21. cut off, except my mom secretly kep...married at 21. cut off, except my mom secretly kept us on the family cell phone plan until sean graduated from physical therapy school. bless her. she also helped us with gas money for the last year when i was student teaching and driving from rexburg to idaho falls every day. we have gotten absolutely ZERO money from sean's family. it's been really good for us. i am so happy with how far we have come, how much the lord has helped us achieve. he truly is why we've made it. how blessed we have been.a manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04322104901794266588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-2868153452681852522011-04-18T14:00:03.536-07:002011-04-18T14:00:03.536-07:00Your Parenting style reminds me of my mom - and I ...Your Parenting style reminds me of my mom - and I miss her so much! I miss calling her and when I would need/ask for advice, she'd give it and that would be that (never ever getting upset if I didn't follow her advice) or if I just needed a listening ear, she'd listen and let me "vent" or whatever was needed. <br />Thanks for sharing....I still have a little bit of a ways to go - but it helps me (as a mother with little kiddos) know what direction to go NOW. I've always looked up to you and your family. :o)The Pickettshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08874320136254839569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-56708443146689097082011-04-18T13:19:49.955-07:002011-04-18T13:19:49.955-07:00I am right there with you Jenny, and I am proud of...I am right there with you Jenny, and I am proud of them too!Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11869512057489286126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-4221295867299305352011-04-18T13:18:02.080-07:002011-04-18T13:18:02.080-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11869512057489286126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-69506428264227538602011-04-18T13:14:53.680-07:002011-04-18T13:14:53.680-07:00What a fabulous post! Your philosophy on raising...What a fabulous post! Your philosophy on raising children reflects those of mine and are pretty similar to how I raised my two boys. Although, I waited until they turned 12 to teach them to do their own laundry! ;) Love Tucker's comment. What a testimony to your and Brad's parenting.<br /><br />I do not feel I did my boys an injustice in how I raised them. I wanted them to be prepared for adulthood and, compared to many of their peers, they were much more prepared for it. My dil was raised in a sheltered environment and one devoid of chores and responsibilities but she has come a long way since I first met her and I am proud of her.<br /><br />~ TracyMs. Bake-ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08788863782876226680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-49915304130360376842011-04-18T09:52:33.646-07:002011-04-18T09:52:33.646-07:00Well said, Jen! Well said.
=)Well said, Jen! Well said.<br /><br />=)Susan Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16049586085703324088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-24021812517513279232011-04-18T09:21:44.889-07:002011-04-18T09:21:44.889-07:00Jenny, I couldn't agree more with your parenti...Jenny, I couldn't agree more with your parenting style. My oldest is graduating college in a few weeks too, then off to start her life in NYC (like your son!). <br /><br />She and I were just talking about the glaring differences between her and several of her roommates independence-wise. The fact that she knows how to do laundry, clean a kitchen, pay bills, deal with a parking ticket etc. without me holding her hand is something that I feel very proud of. <br /><br />When she turned 16, we went straight to the bank to open her checking account. I showed her how to do everything, but my name was not on that account -- I wanted her to know it was HER money and HER responsibility.<br /><br />I was also a young mom - just 19 when I had her, though I was single. I had the same kind of upbringing, and I knew that for me, one of the most important jobs as her mother was to teach her how to be an independent, self sufficient adult.<br /><br />It's pretty exciting seeing her reach that milestone.Jessica Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00861658300112079021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-21609783982292395842011-04-18T09:20:15.745-07:002011-04-18T09:20:15.745-07:00Amen!!! I'm just starting the parenting journ...Amen!!! I'm just starting the parenting journey, so I'm still trying to figure it out, but I so agree with what you said. My mother-in-law taught me that it is ok to be a "mean" mom, because in the end, that is what is best for the kids. So, in my eyes, mean moms are good moms, not mean, just trying to teach their children how to stand.Velikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14148692888218202824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-11303620323865254052011-04-18T08:54:31.961-07:002011-04-18T08:54:31.961-07:00Thanks for another wonderful post -- I'm so gl...Thanks for another wonderful post -- I'm so glad I found you! Your honesty is helpful to us moms with younger kids who are further back on the path than you. Thanks!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03509169727773615479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-22578264188715454082011-04-18T08:52:26.472-07:002011-04-18T08:52:26.472-07:00Anna:
That comment from Tucker should say it all. ...Anna:<br />That comment from Tucker should say it all. Here I sit in tears, knowing the reward does come.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01313127576303289593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-56203617656260771062011-04-18T08:45:31.812-07:002011-04-18T08:45:31.812-07:00That WSJ article almost made me re-think my Empire...That WSJ article <i>almost</i> made me re-think my Empire Strikes Back pillow case.Mykehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09656533609061854359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-77493895270771137872011-04-18T08:27:10.765-07:002011-04-18T08:27:10.765-07:00Let me shed a little light on this. She was not al...Let me shed a little light on this. She was not always this way. As a kid in elementary schools, (schoolS) I was often protected by my mother, with or without request. She defended, she called teachers, she ranted to principals, and generally, I had an ok childhood. <br /><br />As I grew older, my mom interfered less and less. This is something that she has worked at for years and years. I wish I was half as good at staying in control as she is. Then again, she's had a LOT longer to work at it ;) <br /><br />I am proud to say that I grew up with my mom teaching me and guiding me, and as I grew taller and bigger and smarter (maybe) I needed less and less help. Knowing my mom as I do, it was hard for her to let go of control. But I'm so proud of the way she's grown in this respect. <br /><br />Occasionally I think, "Man!!! My life would've been so much better if I had been Hyrum or Micah. My parents would've been so much more experienced." But when I think that, I remember watching my parents make mistakes. Mistakes I'm grateful I saw so that I can learn how to effectively parent. Am I going to make mistakes? <br /><br />Of course not.<br /><br />Ok maybe. <br /><br />But I'm glad I grew up in a house where mom didn't hide me under her wing the whole time, but instead, gave me the chance to fall so that I could learn.<br /><br />Love you Mom!!!Tuckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01165270428799402033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-3781240943401873002011-04-18T08:25:54.323-07:002011-04-18T08:25:54.323-07:00i love how you put...'religion is the backbone...i love how you put...'religion is the backbone of our family' nicely put! i totally agree!Laura@The Oily Cupboardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13649567413697929693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-2100518435875227352011-04-18T07:53:51.461-07:002011-04-18T07:53:51.461-07:00Great post Jenny. You are right on about not maki...Great post Jenny. You are right on about not making children grow up and be prepared for adult life. That is one really amazing thing about serving missions... The boys are forced to grow up immediately after High School. By the time they are done serving their missions, they are ready to face the world. (Hopefully).(Let's) GO FLY A KITE!!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12924590911734470629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-58478879220333229022011-04-18T07:42:25.924-07:002011-04-18T07:42:25.924-07:00I LOVE LOVE LOVE this post and feel so much the sa...I LOVE LOVE LOVE this post and feel so much the same ways. <br />I often wonder/worry that my husband and I do too much for our children. Don't get me wrong, we don't provide a whole lot of luxury, but I do a lot more than I need to or maybe should do and then I find myself wondering why the kids don't help out more, or why the kids aren't more independant. Duh......<br />We live in an area where there are so many kids having things handed to them left and right (credit cards, cars, fashionable clothing, money, etc...) they don't have to earn anything, it's just handed to them.<br /> I'm glad my kids have a better grasp on reality than that, but I still think I do too much.<br />As for getting kids to read the scriptures on their own....let me know when you find a good answer for that one.Susan Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17387510304089583710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2750966252794891890.post-25659220040209589972011-04-18T07:38:25.859-07:002011-04-18T07:38:25.859-07:00so many thoughts of my own, now. Teaching your kid...so many thoughts of my own, now. Teaching your kids how to work takes more patience and work on the part of the parent than if parents did it all alone. So I am finding. And it is frustrating.<br /><br />But, worth it in the end. right? right?!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00498750042795390934noreply@blogger.com